Accepting Or Not
Yesterday a mom called me to ask my opinion about her upcoming labor experience. Plans had changed for her. She wants a natural, unmedicated birth. She’s border line with Gestational Diabetes. Now at 40 weeks, her doctor wants to induce her labor. The argument here is the concern for a challenged birth because of a “large” baby due to the gestational diabetes. But, she’s worried she’s going to end-up with a Cesarean birth.
I totally understand how she feels. All I could do was listen and make suggestions on questions to ask when she gets to the hospital. But more important was helping her to calm down. Not all inductions lead to Cesarean, although there is potential risk for one.
Aside from her concerns about being induced, I was aware of the anxiety it was causing her. Because I know how stress and emotions can affect the birth process, with or without medication, with or without induction, with or without a Cesarean birth, it was important to address her fears.
Life always throws “curve balls” at some point in our lives. This was one for this new mom. It was not what she wanted. So somehow she needed to find a way to accept it in a loving way within herself. Some experiences in life just can’t be controlled, they just have to unfold in their own way.
I can’t tell her what to do. Nor can I call up her doctor and discuss her case – totally inappropriate. But I can help her find what she needs within her to make this unwanted experience easier emotionally.
You are a consumer. You pay for your health care and an obstetrician to manage your pregnancy and labor. The more you educate yourself, you arm yourself with CURRENT knowledge you create choices in planning for the birth of your baby.
Even when a “curve ball” is thrown in your direction, there is always something to learn from the experience. When a birth experience doesn’t go the way it’s planned, look for what’s good, instead of focusing too much on what might go wrong.
It’s quite possible this mom may not have a Cesarean birth.