Being One With The Wave
Today I taught a class on how to use meditation as a tool to decrease stress and “labor pain”.
One of the dads-to-be shared a wonderful story he liked a lot and has it’s roots in Buddhism. It related to a statement I invited them to remember Relaxing into discomfort decreases its intensity.
I might not tell it the same way but I’ll give it a try …
There was a steep mountainous waterfall and many who lived in a nearby village tried to ride it’s wild waves to the calm waters at the bottom that flowed into a river. Many lies were lost or severely hurt trying to make the fall from top to bottom without injury.
One day a villager dived into the perilous waters. Word traveled and people in the village heard and gathered round at the top of the waterfall and even at the bottom to watch and see if he would make it.
A short time passed and in the calm waters that flowed into the river, a man’s head gracefully rose up from the waters.
Amazed, people cheered for him and wondered how he did it! One villager even asked him and this is what the man said…
“I became one with the water”.
Take a minute to think about this. What does it mean to become “one” with something?
Now, I told you and it’s true, relaxing into discomfort decreases its intensity, right? So let’s s-t-r-e-t-c-h your thinking a bit here.
How about the idea of your uterus ( it’s the largest muscle in your body right now because you’re pregnant ) being a part of your body (obviously), a part of YOU and it MUST contract to birth your baby.
Could you befriend your contractions?
Could you accept them and “ride” the wave one at a time?
Could you be “one” with your body and just allow your contractions to happen, instead of fearing them which increases pain?
Your body is not out to “get” you or to cause you harm. Think about it. Your childbirth experience does not have to be traumatic, frightening. It can be the most loving and calm experience.
This is the new way to think about labor and to prepare for it by changing your mindset towards them and labor pain – it’s different for every woman.
Here’s a great post to read about understanding your contractions better...
Ask me your questions in the comment box below… would love to hear what you think!