Sifting Through The Hype

LoveI am with child!Yes! I Can!Do you know that having babies is big business in the USA? It’s one of the main money  makers for hospitals.

When my son was born 18 years ago there were hardly any books on pregnancy, and no magazines like there are today on the subject.

Today, the market is flooded with products, books, magazines, media, online websites and blogs dedicated to pregnancy and how to have a baby.

Our American culture has bought into the “commercialization” of childbirth. There’s a lot of rumors – good and bad, hearsay, and fear circulating in our society about childbirth. Is it hype or truth? How do you sift through it all because it can make you head spin.

It’s not only overwhelming, but it can influence your decisions and the choices you make in planning for the birth of your baby, and even in parenting…

So, can you sift through what’s influencing your feelings about birth, with how you really feel about birth?

For example, there’s a debate going on about women wearing high heels verses flats. Are you less attractive because you choose to wear flats? Are you less sexy because you wear flats?

Are you less of a woman because you don’t wear high heels, or more of a woman because you wear them?

So, are you less of a woman or a mom-to-be because you choose the epidural? Are you  a “natural birth militant” because you choose to go through labor without medication?

Do you follow the trends and do things because that’s the way everyone else does it?

Heavens, we live in a very judgmental culture and it can be quite damaging to what you believe to be true for yourself.

So how do you sift through the hype …

  • First, accept that only you know what’s best for you – not an article in a magazine. Believe in yourself.
  • Compare what you read, hear, see, with what you feel believe in your heart. You innate instincts are usually, if not always, right.
  • Ask this question: Am I basing my decision on someone else’s experience? Or do I really believe this to be true.
  • Ask yourself: Where did my opinion on this topic come from? If you discover that others are influencing you, rethink it and make your own decisions.

It’s very easy to do what others think you should do. But always remember people who give advice usually want you to do what they did. They usually don’t have your best interests at heart.

And, everyone is different. What worked for them may not work for you.

The important message here is this: you are no less of a woman and mom-to-be if you do what YOU want to do! Always be true to yourself. Besides, you’re the one going through labor! Not them.

So avoid falling prey to the hype. Sift through everything you come across about preparing for birth, then make your own decision from what you believe is true and best for you.

Birth bold,


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Lesly Federici

Lesly Federici is an experienced Labor and Delivery Registered Nurse (RN), She's been teaching childbirth education for over 15 years. She currently teaches Mindful Meditation to expectant couples. Lslynotes has been helping women globally prepare for childbirth online since 1998. Contact her, she'd love to hear from you!

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4 Responses

  1. Cierra Simone says:

    Hi Lesly! I am so greatful for all the information you have shared in your free online childbirth class. I am currently 31 weeks into my pregnacy. The information you have shared has really brought me peace and a boost of confidence with this pregnacy. Thanks so much 🙂

  2. Hi Lesly,

    Great inspiration. I sure you had been around when I was pregnant with my daughter. I guess I made the right decisions because she turned out okay but many years ago was so different from the information out there today.

    Keep doing your great work.
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