I wanted to write you a personal note. This is a really great time for you. In spite of all the worldly problems we are having these days.
Being a parent is a challenge. But one that comes with great rewards. Your life changes forever. As a result, your personal dreams are placed aside to raise a family.
Dads, don't expect mom to know everything just because she's the mom. She has to find her own way. Figure out the breast feeding thing, figure out how to be the woman she is (why you fell in love with her in the first place) while being a mom, lover, and wife. Lot's of roles here.
Help her. Give her space. Be supportive. Do the dishes. Clean the house. Chip in. Take her out. Continue to romanace her. You still have a marriage to tend too. One you start forgeting the small things ... look out!
Moms, if you're pregnant right now, it's normal for dad not to "get it"! This is YOUR body going through all the changes. Dad's on the outside trying to look in, but he can't. Be patient. He will understand everything and will hit him like a ton of bricks when he sees his baby for the first time.
Communicate, communicate, communicate.
If you're a new mom, ask for help. Who says you have to do everything? The "Baby Blues" affects some 50 -70% of women after childbirth.
So,
- do those wonderful things that make you feel pretty and special
- create "date" time with hubby
If you do these things, the transition to momhood will be easier.
My best to you, and if you need any emotional support, contact me.
My best,
Parent Jobs
During the time you both are pregnant
:-) , and just because the reality of being or becoming a parent hasn't kicked in yet - until it does you are not totally aware of "parent jobs" that you'll stress over. The more proactive you are the better. Here's a list of things to thnk about and get ready for:
- vaccines: talk to your pediatrician and research them. Right now hospitals are back to giving the Hep.B vaccine to baby a day or so after birth.
- baby: learn about baby/child physical development and milestones! If you understand the usual you won't panic.
- Baby smarts: Just because your baby is a newborn or a few weeks old they aren't learning. THEY ARE!!! Learn about the stages of COGNITIVE development. Take a Baby Signs class. This will help you a great deal with COMMUNICATION with your baby.
- Baby crying: Hey, that's what they do. in the beginning they eat, sleep, and poop. Get over it! If baby crys, pick her up! YOU CAN NOT SPOIL A BABY. If you ignore baby, she will LEARN she is not safe because her most basic needs, love and attention are absent.
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